For many women, menopause is spoken about in hushed tones, a stage of life associated with hot flashes, sleepless nights, mood swings, and hormonal upheaval. It is often framed as something to survive, rather than something to move through and beyond.

But according to Nicola Clarke, the years after menopause can bring an unexpected sense of freedom, confidence, and self-discovery.

“I didn’t learn this from a book; I learnt it in my own body,” Clarke said. “No one really throws you a party when menopause ends. There’s no cake or banner or anyone handing you champagne saying, ‘Congratulations, you survived the hot flashes.’ But honestly, that feels like a missed opportunity.”