I am a 19-year-old girl, and I am writing to you because I have a problem.

I am a Christian and more than a year ago, I started masturbating. I used to do it whenever I took my shower. Now I find that I have to masturbate when I go to bed. If I don’t, I won’t fall asleep. Whenever I masturbate, I feel relaxed and I fall asleep. I have my own room, so nobody knows that I masturbate. I keep a rag near to my bed or plenty of toilet paper. Sometimes I masturbate two or three times per day, especially when I don’t have to go to work or school.

I have a boyfriend. He is three years older than I am and I enjoy having sex with him. But if we don’t have sex when we go out, as soon as I get home, I have to masturbate. In a young people’s meeting, the topic of masturbation came up, and I was surprised that other young ladies admitted that they do it. But the leader of the group said that masturbation is a sin because whenever one does it, one has to be thinking about a man, and if you are a man, you have to be thinking about a girl. I don’t have to be thinking about my boyfriend when I masturbate.